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My journey with Mindfulness with my Three Boys

To those of you just joining, I'm trying to get my three boys ages 10, 12 and 13 to be mindful and keep a journal. I'm sure most of you can imagine the challenge here.

I made progress with my middle son, M. And am attempting to get the other two boys on board.

I started with my oldest, B.

I walked into his room and sat on his bed.

"Hey. I bought you a jour...."

Before I can even finish my sentence he is making a face and this odd, loud noise. It's a noise he makes when he's uncomfortable. The noise is almost like a fake yell that sounds like an alarm.

His brown eyes are wide beneath his black, Buddy Holly-like glasses. His hair, thick and overgrown, is sticking up - his tight curls standing on top of his head.

"B!"

He stops making the noise but his face stays the same.

"B, this is a journal. I just want you to try something."

<Insert face and noise>

"B!"

He stops making the noise but his face stays the same.

"B, write your name in it and turn to the first page."

<Insert face and noise>

"B!"

He laughs uncomfortably, closing his eyes and tilting his head back.

"Just write, 'I love my body and trust its wisdom.'"

<Insert face and noise>

To my surprise he wrote it.

His reaction, although silly, does remind me that trying new things isn't always easy. And I don't know how many times I've been in B's shoes where I was putting myself in new territory and wanted to scream and make a face.

Yes, I agree he is "at that age" but I think it's all the more reason to be present and become a resource in this stage of his life.

I think self-awareness and self-acceptance leads to self-compassion and self-love.

I do believe that journaling is a step in the right direction to self-awareness. If I didn't, I wouldn't be so patient with B's resistance.

Even if I plant this seed with him now and it doesn't grow until his 20s, I'm ok with that.





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